University professor of sexual assault female student, he got more than just sex

recently, domestic several university professor of sexual abuse scandals. Students from Beijing university of aeronautics and astronautics professor xiao-wu Chen sexual assault, foreign economic and trade university, nanchang university professor have students come forward. Currently xiao-wu Chen has been removed.

why forbidden love between teachers and students to an American university?

background has asked fans to leave a message: & other; Why are respected professor, for students to make such a behavior? They could not use other ways to obtain sexual satisfaction? Throughout the &;

we want to talk about today, in addition to being able to answer the above questions, can also be used to answer & other; Why can’t a psychological consultant and the patient in a relationship, if the patient is voluntary? Throughout the &;

and, when I go to school in New York, asked the teacher a question, & other; Why should the school forbids students in teachers classes to fall in love? The relationships between teachers and students is not very romantic? Throughout the &;

because today we are going to talk about the topic, is & other; Sex and power & throughout; .

human relations in the exchange of the two dimensions of

to understand why these professors to get sex from students, the first thing to speak of from the two dimensions of interpersonal interaction in.

every period of the relationship between person and person, there are interaction. You and your friend eat together, you and your colleagues work together, you and traders buy and sell. Eat, work, business, these are the interpersonal interaction & other; The content & throughout; . But interactions, in addition to content, there are also important, even more important) of another dimension, namely the interaction of & other; Throughout the process &; .

psychological consultants, has been training should not only focus on talking about oneself and visitors interaction content, more to observe the interaction process, such as when visiting the began to be late, will carefully, at the request of the request or aggressive, and so on. Interactive process is often more than the content of the interaction is not easy to monitor and camouflage itself, making it easy to reveal people’s heart.

the process of interaction, consensual, also one side not voluntary. Harassed professor in beihang above the female student’s case, he not only won the interactive content, namely the sex itself, but also won the pleasure brought by the interaction process, namely the power (Henriques, 2017).

there are more and more researchers and clinical workers, points out that in essence, sexual assault is stems from a desire to control and dominate the violent. Through the victims of sexual violence will become the object of power, so as to bring the power of the bully to bear (Blay, 2017; Yonack, 2017). Foucault defines power: the power of discretion is to what extent one can, not affected by the other side of the resistance, to the other party to carry out and implement their own will. Obviously, the professors in the process of forcing the students to gain the power of pleasant sensation, is unable to get in other sexual voluntarism.

once a visitor (to protect privacy, the specific details for fictional) have a strong sense of rape fantasy. Ta on the Internet to be involved in a special BBS about rape fantasy, afterwards is repeatedly feel guilt and shame. Pleasure in rape fantasy, from & other; Broke their original modesty, pure, inviolable, feel they cannot & throughout; . I ask ta, you’d think ta resistance is a kind of shy to enjoy the performance? Ta said no, that was a real resist even disgust. Ta fantasy happy, of course, it’s from & other; Own will to resist power regardless of the other party to carry out & throughout; .

fantasy, fantasy and action between the distinction that having essence. But in this society with a set of false words of violence culture. When she said don’t do not, for example, is just shy. Such as women are sluts because of sex, so refused to sex just good woman normal performance. Again, for example, by conquering the vagina you can conquer a woman’s heart, although they are initially resist, but will enjoy it.

I didn’t do it, don’t know how many men really believe this is a set of words & other Realistic & throughout; . But there must be some men know this is not the case, don’t hinder the words continue to circulate. And it is become a hotbed of violence culture.

power abuse,

when power intervention, voluntary still exist?

in Taiwan & other; Power abuse & throughout; To define what happened in the unequal relations of power & other; Sex & throughout; (vocal & guitar I, 2017), including the use of power to make themselves in & other; Sex & throughout; On benefit, such as to have sex with each other, each other such as sexual harassment. Taiwan column editor Audrey Ko called: & other; Hunting, to power the exchange of their sexual conquest. Throughout the &;

this unequal power, is not necessarily & other; Political/economic power & throughout; And refer to is more & other; Widely throughout the &; Power, including any position in family relationships, the workplace, the relationship between teachers and students, the age gap, the richness of different gender, sexual knowledge, social status differences between the two sides, such as the existence of a kind of power balance, and even social requirement for chastity are manufactured with a power gap, such as back women are thought to be inferior).

the psychoanalyst Yonack (2017) pointed out that when a weak, whether it is work, and good grades, promotion/performance opportunities, etc., can (help) to achieve these needs another convenient have & other; Power & throughout; .

so, between higher and lower; Between the professor and students; Between consultants/physician with visiting/patients, there is difference between the power. The party has power, such as the superior, professor, counselor, physician, for the other party, at a lower level, students, visiting, patient, of sexual assault is a & other; Power abuse & throughout; .

it is strictly prohibited to Yale university teachers to have sex with his direct and supervise the students, the teachers can’t supervise any sex students. The teacher to have sex with any undergraduate is prohibited. The teacher any violation will be direct. In California, consultants and visitors, visitors or end treatment 2 years, have sex, belong to sex crimes, consultant’s license will be revoked. In Taiwan, the use of kinship, guardianship, education and relief, medical, business, business sexual intercourse relations so as to obtain the opportunity, will be sentenced to more than six months under five years of fixed-term imprisonment. Similar regulations in Europe and the United States and Hong Kong, Macao and Taiwan regions and lots more.

the students can actively voluntarily fall in love with the instructor? Many researchers believe that when power intervention, the informed consent of people will lose complete autonomy. You really are in love with each other, or threatened by the power of temptation,? Many times may do not understand. And after a lot of people are out of the power relations, will regret original investment. In order to avoid the possible damage, these countries and regions, the school will prohibit any possible & other; With power in exchange for sex interests & throughout; In the event.

of course, the power struggles will also happen from the bottom up. If happen relationships between teachers and students in a relationship, in disadvantage may be falsely accused the teacher, students of the emotional retribution. For the teachers and students in violation of regulations, the object of punishment is a teacher, rather than the students, will usually be dismissed or fired.

it was an invasion is more than a body:

self has become blurred, crushing

Finkelhor with Browne (1986) proposed the sexual assault trauma can leave victims of 4 kinds of negative psychological effects, these effects may be long and profound.

1. The trauma of sexual experience: victims of sexual feelings and attitudes, in the process of being sexually assaulted confusion. Ta may create chaos, confusion, guilt and shame in sex.

2. Self stigmatized: society for the victims is a & other; Perfect victims throughout the &; The hypothetical. Once the victim does not conform to the assumptions, is seen as a voluntary, asked for it. For example, when victims exist in the process of physiological & other; Pleasure & throughout; ; Or wearing sexy. Alone or take the initiative to date (such as the sexual abuse); Or the victims and perpetrators indeed there is a close relationship between (such as marital sexual assault), Ta in people’s minds absolute & other; Victims throughout the &; Identity will be questioned, being challenged.

when victims received their & other; Bad, impurity, shame, inviting & throughout; The information, it will affect their ego identity. Porter et al. (1982) & other; Spoilage syndrome & throughout; This concept, the victim that irreversible damage on the body, oneself like a incomplete items, along with fear, low self-esteem, repressed anger, lose the ability to trust, not independent reactions.

3. Betrayal: victims found they rely on the people don’t credible, unable to protect them and give them great harm. The fight for the victim’s sense of trust and security is fatal.

4. Impotence: feel his weakness is many victims for several years, can’t get rid of feeling.

and compared with general of sexual abuse, sexual abuse power and some special consequences:

power victims of sexual assault, easier than general assault to Stockholm syndrome: think I fell in love with each other. Because the power relationships lead to violations are often more than once, and is a long-term, and because of unequal power relations between both sides, hard to refuse and escape the relationship of the victims. So they could cognitive dissonance tell yourself & other; I must have because love Ta, to and Ta sex & throughout; .

image is often the boss, the role of the teacher, rescuers, this will have profound negative influence to the victims, they find it difficult to know clearly the boundary between these roles, for & other; Damage & throughout; With & other; Love & throughout; The relationship between wondering (especially for underage victim). When they grow up more difficult to deal with the relationship, because they tend to confuse likes and dislikes, desires, and hurt, love and hate.

for no experienced people, this description may seem remote and obscure. I of the arrival of an experienced sexual assault by the teacher once told me that because & other; Trap & throughout; Behavior looks so like & other; Friendly & throughout; The friendly perception confusion that later for the opposite sex. But not just alert again, her own and more powerful the boundary between older men, seems to have become more blurred & ndash; & ndash; Her & other; Friendly & throughout; And sometimes also looks like the others & other; Temptation & throughout; .

in addition, in the intimate relationship, she always when I feel each other about their desire to produce disgust, trust and love in each other are not eager to own & ndash; & ndash; One problem with this, of course, is that desire is an important part in intimate relationships. But she said, as if these reactions are recorded on her body, more powerful than her reason. That is to say, she didn’t force decide whether he is hate or love a person, even if is the same person in different time.

and power abuse, there are some special negative consequences of it. Power of sexual assault victims harder to speak, because they tend to be a threat. The power of power abuse, especially long-term abuse often very complex. It is hard to really understand the inequality in power relations, through various means to achieve sexual abuse, it is hard to focus on the victim’s weakness, power of sexual assault victims tend to face the outside world & other; Asked & throughout; : & other; Why don’t you say no? Do you have desperately resist? Why you still keep the original after a relationship? Throughout the &;

tenants, as for the long-term victims of abuse, is heavy.

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what should we do again

the sexual abuse of American scholar Judith Herman in the book “trauma and repair”, put forward the five steps of wound repair.

a. stability: find a safe environment, in which you feel comfortable and not scared, at the same time, the environment can help you meet the basic needs of life.

b. tell: you tell your trusted friends or therapist (or write) his own trauma, try in the face of trauma in the process of accepting yourself and understand the trauma is not their fault, and trauma can be restored. Accompanied by the suggestion in the process of professional (such as psychological consultants and social workers, etc.), to avoid the secondary damage.

c. transformation: from complained of trauma in the process of the transformation of the mode of their memories of trauma and transform the narration for & other; Yourself overcome so much & throughout; , feel your strength in the repair process.

d. set up: the different relationship to build up their sense of trust, try a little bit to rediscover a sense of security.

e. reconciliation: try and yourself, and also the past the trauma of reconciliation, try not to trauma as his identity is the most important part of it. Again to find their own sense of purpose and meaning.

write here in a short span of five steps, may be they (including men and women and all kinds of the victims of the gender) most of the time. For our society, we need to do the most, is to give all the unfortunate victims, to create a allows the sound environment. Imagine, if you have such experience, you dare to dare not to stand up and say, I am a survivor. You will not be worried about being so by evaluation, misunderstanding, and even slander? Are you afraid of your partner, lover so think you & other Value & throughout; Down? null